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Showing posts with label Detecting Lies in Body Language Tics. Show all posts
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Friday, 29 November 2013

Mark Twain’s Top 9 Tips for Living a Kick-Ass Life

Mark Twain’s Top 9 Tips for Living a Kick-Ass Life
You may know Mark Twain for some of his very popular books, but what you may not know is how much of a bad ass he was at living life. Here are a few tips for living an awesome life from Mark Twain.



“It’s no wonder that truth is stranger than fiction. Fiction has to make sense.”
“Let us live so that when we come to die even the undertaker will be sorry.”
“When your friends begin to flatter you on how young you look, it’s a sure sign you’re getting old.”
You may know Mark Twain for some of his very popular books like Adventures of Huckleberry Finn and The Adventures of Tom Sawyer. He was a writer and also a humorist, satirist and lecturer.
Twain is known for his many – and often funny – quotes. Here are a few of my favourite tips from him.
1. Approve of yourself.
“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.”
If you don’t approve of yourself, of your behaviour and actions then you’ll probably walk around most of the day with a sort of uncomfortable feeling. If you, on the other hand, approve of yourself then you tend to become relaxed and gain inner freedom to do more of what you really want.
This can, in a related way, be a big obstacle in personal growth. You may have all the right tools to grow in some way but you feel an inner resistance. You can’t get there.
What you may be bumping into there are success barriers. You are putting up barriers in your own mind of what you may or may not deserve. Or barriers that tell you what you are capable of. They might tell you that you aren’t really that kind of person that could this thing that you’re attempting.
Or if you make some headway in the direction you want to go you may start to sabotage for yourself. To keep yourself in a place that is familiar for you.
So you need give yourself approval and allow yourself to be who you want to be. Not look for the approval from others. But from yourself. To dissolve that inner barrier or let go of that self-sabotaging tendency. This is no easy task and it can take time.
2. Your limitations may just be in your mind.
“Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.”
So many limitations are mostly in our minds. We may for instance think that people will disapprove because we are too tall, too old or balding. But these things mostly matter when you think they matter. Because you become self-conscious and worried about what people may think.
And people pick up on that and may react in negative ways. Or you may interpret anything they do as a negative reaction because you are so fearful of a bad reaction and so focused inward on yourself.
If you, on the other hand, don’t mind then people tend to not mind that much either. And if you don’t mind then you won’t let that part of yourself become a self-imposed roadblock in your life.
It is, for instance, seldom too late to do what you want to do.
3. Lighten up and have some fun.
“Humor is mankind’s greatest blessing.”
“Against the assault of laughter nothing can stand.”
Humor and laughter are amazing tools. They can turn any serious situation into something to laugh about. They can lighten the mood just about anywhere.
And a lighter mood is often a better space to work in because now your body and mind isn’t filled to the brim with negative emotions. When you are more light-hearted and relaxed then the solution to a situation is often easier to both come up with and implement. Have a look at Lighten Up! for more on this topic.
4. Let go of anger.
“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.”
Anger is most of the time pretty pointless. It can cause situations to get out of hand. And from a selfish perspective it often more hurtful for the one being angry then the person s/he’s angry at.
So even if you feel angry at someone for days recognize that you are mostly just hurting yourself. The other person may not even be aware that you are angry at him or her. So either talking to the person and resolving the conflict or letting go of anger as quickly as possible are pretty good tips to make your life more pleasurable.
5. Release yourself from entitlement.
“Don’t go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first.”
When you are young your mom and dad may give a lot of things. As you grow older you may have a sort of entitlement. You may feel like the world should just give you what you want or that it owes you something.
This belief can cause a lot of anger and frustration in your life. Because the world may not give you what expect it to. On the other hand, this can be liberating too. You realize that it is up to you to shape your own life and for you to work towards what you want. You are not a kid anymore, waiting for your parents or the world to give you something.
You are in the driver’s seat now. And you can go pretty much wherever you want.
6. If you’re taking a different path, prepare for reactions.
“A person with a new idea is a crank until the idea succeeds.”
I think this has quite a bit of relevance to self-improvement.
If you start to change or do something different than you usually do then people may react in different ways. Some may be happy for you. Some may be indifferent. Some may be puzzled or react in negative and discouraging ways.
Much of these reactions are probably not so much about you but about the person who said it and his/her life. How they feel about themselves is coming through in the words they use and judgements they make.
And that’s OK. I think it’s pretty likely that they won’t react as negatively as you may imagine. Or they will probably at least go back to focusing on their own challenges pretty soon.
So what other people may say and think and letting that hold you back is probably just fantasy and barrier you build in your mind.
You may find that when you finally cross that inner threshold you created then people around you may not shun you or go chasing after you with pitchforks. :) They might just go: “OK”.
7. Keep your focus steadily on what you want.
“Drag your thoughts away from your troubles… by the ears, by the heels, or any other way you can manage it.”
What you focus your mind on greatly determines how things play out. You can focus on your problems and dwell in suffering and a victim mentality. Or you can focus on the positive in situation, what you can learn from that situation or just focus your mind on something entirely else.
It may be “normal” to dwell on problems and swim around in a sea of negativity. But that is a choice. And a thought habit. You may reflexively start to dwell on problems instead of refocusing your mind on something more useful. But you can also start to build a habit of learning to gain more and more control of where you put your focus.
8. Don’t focus so much on making yourself feel good.
“The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up.”
This may be a bit of a counter-intuitive tip. But as I wrote yesterday, one of the best ways to feel good about yourself is to make someone else feel good or to help them in some way.
This is a great way to look at things to create an upward spiral of positivity and exchange of value between people. You help someone and both of you feel good. The person you helped feels inclined to give you a hand later on since people tend to want to reciprocate. And so the both of you are feeling good and helping each other.
Those positive feelings are contagious to other people and so you may end up making them feel good too. And the help you received from your friend may inspire you to go and help another friend. And so the upward spiral grows and continues.
9. Do what you want to do.
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did so. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
Awesome quote. And I really don’t have much to add to that one. Well, maybe to write it down and keep it as a daily reminder – on your fridge or bathroom door – of what you can actually do with your life.

Posted By: Pawan Lubana on Friday, 29 November 2013

Friday, 25 October 2013

How to know when people are lying.




Lying well is very hard but not in the way you might think.
We usually find nervousness as a sign of lying. but that’s actually a weak prediction. some people are very good at lying without the fear of getting caught. Others are great at hiding it.

Lying is hard because it makes you think. 
Lying can be demanding. You must construct a falsehood that’s acceptable on its face and must suppress the truth and doesn’t contradict anything known by the listener.
We blink our eyes more often when we’re nervous, but blink less under cognitive load. recent studies reveal that we blink less when deceiving. People fidget more in nervousness but cognitive load has opposite effect. In deceptive situations people often fidget less. And under cognitive load , me use less hand gestures while deceiving and both sexes often employ longer pauses when speaking deceptively.
Don’t look for the signs of stress, look for the indicators that a person is thinking hard.
They tend to cut down on gesturing, not to move their legs and arms too much, give shorter and less detailed answers, repeat the same phrases. Finally is increased evasiveness, as liars avoid answering a question completely, perhaps by asking a question of their own or by switching topics.
Experts don’t rely upon common signs of lying. They seek to increase liar’s cognitive load and make the person think harder.

HERE ARE SOME TIPS TO JUDGE THE PERSONE


1. Changes in pitch or tone

It’s all in the voice! Next time you think someone is lying, listen very closely to the sound of his or her voice. While it’s not always the easiest thing to detect, any change in pitch (higher than normal) or tone (lower than normal) indicates you might have a fibber on your hands. Pay attention to the speed at which they talk too. You wouldn’t want anyone to pull a fast one on you (literally), would you?


2. Hiding behind the hands
You know how people will put their hands over their mouth after they accidently blurt something out? Well, liars might touch or shield their face with their hands, as though they’re attempting to hide behind their lies or legit stop them from spilling out. Watch out for any nose scratching or ear pulling as well, both signs of potential liars.

3. Excessive lip licking
Unless you catch your roomie right after the Jimmy John’s incident (in which case, she might still be licking her lips!), this can be seen as a sign of deceit. Lying puts a lot of stress on the body, and a major symptom of high stress is a dry mouth. Hence why liars will lick their lips more than usual.

4. Shoulder shrugs mid-speech
A regular shoulder shrug means, “I don’t know” or “I’m not sure.” So if someone shrugs their shoulder while they’re talking, it means they don’t agree with the words that are coming out of their own mouth. Take John Edwards, for example – when he told the world he didn’t have an affair, his shoulder flew up, signifying he wasn’t being honest.

5. Lack of hand gestures
Just as someone hiding behind their hands is a marker of deception, if someone suddenly stops using their hands to speak or becomes really stiff, it’s a surefire sign that they’re extremely uncomfortable. They may also grasp their hands together, in an attempt to protect something, usually their story or their guilt.

6. Speaking in a measured way
No surprise here! People who lie typically try to memorize their story. In doing so, this causes them to speak in a beat or like they’re reading straight off a script. Don’t fall for it, even if their performance is totally Oscar worthy.

7. Sweat and more sweat
Anyone who’s ever watched an interrogation on TV will notice how the guilty frequently break out in a sweat or are seen wiping sweat from their foreheads. This is because sweat is a natural stress response. And clearly when you lie, it’s stressful.
   





Posted By: Pawan Lubana on Friday, 25 October 2013

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